Breaking the ice online
Posted by The RSVP Team onSo, you've sent a kiss, received a positive kiss reply and now you want to send an email... but first, you need to figure out how to break the ice over email.
It can be quite daunting - especially if you're new to the online dating experience. Where should you start? How do you approach someone and get the conversation flowing?
There is a simple answer here - don't over think it. Just ask yourself - what was it about their profile that caught my eye?
Was it their hobbies, where they live, their humour or the creativity they showed in their personality description? Was it their username that stopped you in your tracks?
Have a think about this and then focus on what it was that appealed to you and start from there.
If it was because you share a hobby or interest - then perhaps use this as the basis of the first online conversation. You can rest assured that you will strike common ground and because it's a mutual hobby, you'll both enjoy talking about it.
How you compose the email will be a matter of personal style and how you like to communicate. However, once you've said hi and introduced yourself, perhaps offer a comment or complement on their profile and then pose a couple of questions.
Questions are really important - they show you're interested, help the banter flow and generally ease things up (as a general rule - people like talking about themselves!).
For example, you could kick things off with something like... "Hi there, I'm so-and-so. I really enjoyed reading your profile and saw you're into water sports. So am I. What's your favourite? I love this time of year when the whole summer is ahead of us... etc"
You can then go in to providing some details about yourself and providing an insight into your personality, but it's important to also show that you're interested in details about them. Asking questions makes it less awkward for the person responding to your email - it gives them a starting point too!
If you're not new to online dating, then this advice will be second nature to you. We'd love to hear your thoughts and experiences on what makes a great opening email...
The RSVP Team
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