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10 signs they're into you


Posted by John Aiken, RSVP dating and relationship expert on

Being single and putting yourself out there can be a challenging process. It requires lots of patience and plenty of courage to keep pushing forward to find that someone special. You'll meet plenty of potential love interests along the way - but not all of them will fit. However when you do experience chemistry with another person and start dating - how do you know that they're into you as well? What are the signs to look out for?

1. They'll chase you
One of the initial signs someone is keen on you is the fact that they'll be happy to chase. You'll hear from them by phone, text, email and Facebook. You won't go days without hearing from them, instead, they want to be in your life frequently.

2. They're reliable and punctual
Someone who is keen on you will be trustworthy and reliable. They won't break promises, stand you up or keep you waiting. When they say they're going to do something, they get it done. They follow through and always walk the talk.

3. They'll wait for sex
When the person you're dating is keen on you and wants something long-term and special, then they'll be happy to wait before jumping into bed. They won't pressure you for sex or make you feel bad or strange. Instead, they will let you take the lead and be respectful when it comes to getting intimate.

4. They'll meet your friends/family
Someone who's into you will be relaxed about meeting your friends and family. Obviously they won't be expecting to do this too early on in the dating process, but when you want them to step up, they won't hesitate. They want to be with you and get to know the people close to you.

5. They'll compliment and praise you
When a person likes you it will be common for them to heap praise on you. They'll focus on your physical attributes and appearance, but also your character, interests, values and goals. This will make you feel really special around them.

6. They're an open book
When someone is keen on you then they won't be difficult to contact or speak to. They'll give you their whereabouts, be open about who they're with and what they're doing because they're happy to let you into their life. They want you involved and so have nothing to hide.

7. They'll want to introduce you to their inner circle
Not only will someone who is keen on you be delighted to meet your friends, but will be excited about introducing you to their nearest and dearest. They'll be proud to show you off and let the people close to them get to know you.

8. They'll listen to your problems
If you're with a person who's into you then you'll feel supported. That means if you've got a problem or a drama, they're going to listen and support you. They'll make time to be there for you and hear what you've got to say rather than dismiss you or run away when there's a problem.

9. They'll make future plans with you
Whenever a potential love interest initiates future plans with you it means they want to see you again and are determined to make it happen. Whether it's a dinner date, going to a concert or going away for a weekend together - they want you there.

10. There are no mixed messages

One of the key signs that a person is into you is that you know where you stand with them at all times. There are no mixed messages, vague answers to questions, uncertainty about future catch-ups, or inappropriate flirting with other singles. They're keen on you, and you have no doubt about this fact.

John Aiken, RSVP dating and relationship expert, and seen weekly on Ch 7's the Morning Show (

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