Safety and security update for single parents
Posted by The RSVP Team onWhen you're dating, it's tempting to get caught up in the excitement of it all but it's key to keep a couple of safe dating guidelines in mind - especially if you have children living at home.
It doesn't matter where you are meeting new people - through friends, in a pub, through a club or online - getting to know them is the first step. You need to spend time with people you are dating and decide whether you trust them before inviting them into your life and introducing them your family and inner circle.
With kids in the picture, this is especially important and your dating life should not disrupt your family and its routines.
Here are some tips from RSVP to help single parents enjoy the dating process and maintain the privacy of your family:
Your profile should be about you, not your family
Just as you don't use your full name as your RSVP name or your home address as your location, you also shouldn't include detailed information about your children in your profile. To help protect your privacy, RSVP will not publish profile photos that include children. Your profile is about you, not your family. You may want to mention that you have children as they a big part of your life but don't get too specific in your profile - there is no need to provide this level of detail. You can reveal this on a one-to-one basis as you get to know people better.
Take it slow
There is no rush when you are getting to know someone. When you're dating online, you'll meet a lot of people and it's a good idea to take your time and get to know other singles over email and instant messaging. Remember with RSVP, one stamp opens up a secure communication channel for 30 days. This is designed to maintain your privacy while you are getting to know people you've met through the site. Use this time to see if you have good online chemistry and banter - you don't have to disclose your entire life story over email. Only when you feel comfortable, should you start providing personal details.
Don't be rushed
When you are getting to know other people, be wary of anyone that expects identifying information (such as home address and phone number, your place of employment or where your children go to school) from you too soon in the dating process. Just because someone asks you for identifying information, doesn't mean you should provide it.
Remember you are in control
Be cautious of pushy or aggressive people. If someone tries to move the relationship along quickly and you are not comfortable with this - slow things down and tell them you need to reduce the pace. They should understand this and if they don't, then walk away.
Children are impressionable and it's important to only introduce them to people once you are in a committed relationship. Dating is about getting to know the other person, seeing if there's a spark and deciding whether you'd like to continue the relationship. In the early stages of dating, your children should not be involved. Being introduced to lots of new people that you're dating can be very disruptive, so make sure you only introduce the kids when you've got to know someone well and you really trust them.
At the end of the day, you know your kids better than anyone. You will know when it's time to talk about your dating and introduce someone new into your family unit. Keep these tips in mind, use your commonsense and judgment. Have fun but remember - there is no rush!
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