Valentine’s Day is around the corner, and if you’re newly dating, it can feel exciting… and a little tricky. How much should you celebrate? What should you say or do? And what’s appropriate for gifts when your relationship is just beginning? Don’t worry — we’ve got you covered.
A Brief History of Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day dates back to ancient Roman times, with origins in the feast of Saint Valentine, a priest known for marrying couples in secret. Over the centuries, it evolved into a celebration of love, romance, and connection. Today, it’s a day to celebrate relationships, but also self-love and connection with friends and family.
While the holiday has become highly commercialised, it can be meaningful for anyone, especially if approached thoughtfully.
Should You Celebrate Valentine’s Day If You’ve Just Started Dating?
The answer is: it depends on you and your comfort level.
- Take it slow: If your relationship is very new, there’s no need for grand gestures. A thoughtful message, shared coffee, or casual date is perfectly appropriate.
- Set boundaries: Make sure you and your date are on the same page. Mutual understanding prevents pressure and keeps things enjoyable.
- Celebrate in your own way: Valentine’s Day isn’t only about romance. Treat yourself, spend time with friends, or do something that brings you joy.
What to Say on Valentine’s Day to Someone You’ve Just Started Dating
Navigating early conversations can be tricky. Here are some ideas for messages that feel thoughtful without being overwhelming:
- Keep it light: “Happy Valentine’s Day! I’ve really enjoyed getting to know you.”
- Show appreciation: “Thinking of you today — looking forward to seeing you again soon.”
- Playful but sincere: “Happy Valentine’s! I hope your day is as lovely as our recent chats.”
Avoid heavy declarations of love or future promises — keep it genuine, warm, and appropriate for the early stage.
Gift Ideas for Early Dating
You don’t need to spend a fortune — thoughtful gestures count the most. Here are some ideas:
For Men:
- A small box of chocolates or gourmet treats
- A handwritten card or note
- A book in a genre he enjoys
- Tickets to a show or event for a future date
For Women:
- Flowers or a small potted plant
- A scented candle or bath gift set
- A personalized coffee mug or keepsake
- A simple experience together — like a wine tasting or museum visit
Tip: Avoid overly expensive or intimate gifts at this stage — keep it light, thoughtful, and personal.
Preparing Your RSVP Profile for Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day is a great motivator to refresh your dating profile and increase your chances of meaningful connections:
- Update photos: Use recent, clear images where your face is visible. Consider adding one that shows a hobby or interest.
- Refresh your bio: Highlight what you enjoy doing and what you’re looking for in a positive, genuine way.
- Show your personality: Use conversation prompts or prompts that invite meaningful replies.
- Be proactive: Send messages, respond thoughtfully, and engage with profiles that catch your interest.
By putting your best foot forward, you make it easier for people who are looking for love — just like you — to notice and connect with you.
Final Thoughts
Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be intimidating, even if you’re newly dating. Keep it light, genuine, and thoughtful. Use it as an opportunity to enjoy connection — with a new date, yourself, or your friends — and to showcase the best version of you on your RSVP profile.
Love can arrive at any stage of life, and Valentine’s Day is just another chance to open the door. 💛
Start your RSVP Profile today and Find a Keeper.
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